Valerie is a 42-year-old, single, Reformed Christian lady who lives in Baltimore. She doesn't remember a time
before she knew and loved Jesus, but she does remember accepting John Calvin into her heart in March of 2000.
Valerie is a member of Christ Reformed Evangelical Church in Annapolis.
Though her career aspiration is to be a housewife, Valerie has not yet found anyone suitable who wishes to hire
her for employment in that field (or, more properly, anyone suitable has not found her), so in the meantime she
earns her daily bread working in communications -- editing, writing, print design and website management.
On October 23, 2007 8:55 PMAnonymouswrote... Very moving! Not only because of Isaiah's decision, but also because of the amazing example of loving, biblical fatherhood which is displayed. I wish I could have raised my children with such wisdom. - Gilda
On October 24, 2007 4:18 PMBrandi H.wrote... Thanks for that link, Valerie. What a beautiful goal, and a gorgeous example of treating your son as a "future man." I'm glad to have found the blog, and have bookmarked it.
On October 27, 2007 3:34 AMBarbarawrote... Um, well... yuk. It's moving, yes, but sorry. Why would a father teach his son that his wife's obedience was dependent upon him? A woman is answerable to God first. And why would a father instill such nonsense in his daughter?
It's a moving story - a brother taking his sister's punishment since he instigated her disobedience - but it a misguided lesson.
On October 27, 2007 9:13 AMValerie (Kyriosity)wrote... We're answerable for our individual sin, yes, but those in authority -- shepherds, parents, husbands -- also bear responsibility for the sin of those they lead. Pastors and elders will have to give account for the souls of their flocks (Heb. 13:17). Parents who don't train their children in righteousness are culpable for their ruin (varions Proverbs). And a husband is to live sacrificially in pursuit of his wife's sanctification (Eph. 5:25ff). Millstone necklaces are better than causing little ones to stumble, and those who those who are conduits of sin face woe (Matt. 18:6-7).
On October 27, 2007 5:54 PMBarbarawrote... Hmmm... you'll have to show me how teachers, parents, and husbands are culpable for the sins of those submitted to them. They are responsible for their actions, their faithfulness or failure or hypocrisy, but I don't see that they bear responsibility or are judged for the sins of others.
I'm open to being shown.
On October 27, 2007 6:05 PMValerie (Kyriosity)wrote... If I raise my kid to be a spoiled selfish brat, aren't I responsible, in part, for his spoiled, selfish brattery? If I abused him, and he went on to abuse his kid, wouldn't I be in part to blame for that?
On October 27, 2007 10:42 PMBarbarawrote... Wellll, yes sorta, but that's not the same as saying you will be punished for your bratty kid's sins. You are responsible for your poor parenting. I'm not debating the fact that a husband has the responsibility to lead his family on the right path and that he will be accountable for his leadership, what I object to is the idea that the husband who is a poor influence on his wife is responsible for her sins. He's responsible for his poor leadership, but she is responsible for her sinful reactions.
God came down equally hard on Adam and Eve, even though, in the patriarchical model, Eve deserved far milder consequences because Adam failed to protect her from sin. But that's not how it went.
On October 29, 2007 7:00 PMseashullwrote... I have trouble with the idea of hitting a child with a belt. Wouldn't the talk have been enough? Does physical pain have to be part of the lesson?
On October 29, 2007 7:04 PMValerie (Kyriosity)wrote... The Bible clearly and repetitively tells parents to use the rod when disciplining their children. I don't have an issue including a belt in the definition of "rod." I do have an issue with redefining "rod" to mean anything less than "corporal corrective implement applied to the hindquarters."
On October 30, 2007 12:43 PMValerie (Kyriosity)wrote... If Mr. or Ms. Anonymous would care to repeat him- or herself in a rational fashion, rather than just calling names, and include a real name or at least a real e-mail address, I will gladly do my best to engage him or her on the issue.